When a Child Dies
No parent ever expects their child to die before they do and when it happens it all feels wrong and is difficult to deal with. My daughter died on 9th February 2012, age 39. Her funeral in on14th February.
WENDY ADEGOROYE nee NELLINS
Wendy was her uncle Al’s little Princess when he played with her as a child. A loving daughter who had lived a long time in pain with various illnesses and been housebound for some time, she was my best friend and confidante too. Wendy was a bubbly person and many of her friends on Facebook didn’t even know that she had anything wrong with her as she went online to cheer up and comfort others.
I am proud of Wendy’s achievements as a bear artist. She started making bears when we lived in Manchester and traded as Crabapple Bears. Her bears were in Teddy Bear Club International magazine and were stocked by Dollies Bear-gere and another bear shop in the Bluewater Centre in Kent. She was trading as Weedarlin Bears up until her death.
Wendy was a charity shop manager in Manchester working for Scope and loved that job. Before moving back to Northern Ireland sh managed a sheltered housing scheme in Salford.
Her dog, Twinkle, a Yorkshire Terrier, is missing her.
She had no children but would have been a wonderful mother as she loved all the children in the family especially her nieces Sophie and Anna-Lucia and her nephew Sonny.
MOTHER AND DAUGHTER
Wendy was well liked and people will remember her fondly. The comments on her Facebook page would make you weep as everyone saw only good in her.
Arranging her funeral has been the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, but at least she had talked to me about it and I have done it her way. She loved pink flowers, pink was her favourite colour and she played Runescape with the name Pinkyloufairy, so I have pink flowers for her funeral. Her long-time friend Andy Shaw will sing one of her favourite songs for her at her funeral. They used to watch Dirty Dancing and liked the song She’s Like the Wind.
REST IN PEACE MY DARLING DAUGHTER. xxx
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Dear Rosetta,
Sorry to hear this! May her Soul rest in Peace! Amen.
Rosetta,May god give you enough strength and enough wisdom to overcome this truth.I shall pray for Wendy.
Take care and look after yourself…God bless you Dear!
Sorry for this great loss. Wish Wendy’s soul rest in Peace. And take care of yourself.
a warm hug and much love…I used to volunteer for scope too.
I am really sorry to hear this Rose. No parent should have to go through this. The peace of God be with you.
hmm.. So Sad…
great share …
im so sorry.
you are right no parent shud have to burry their own children,i can only imagine what you are feeling.
I’m so sorry! I hope all can be as well as possible for you and your family in this difficult time.
when a child dies
weeps her mom
home doesn’t look
a sweet home
feels life sad
and so alone
since the moment
cute child has gone
I also feel sad
My dear friend
Pain in your heart
I can understand
Also touching to me
her remembrance
excellent she was
she was magnificent
Nice share,Rosetta
So sorry for your great loss. May the good Lord grants you strength and joy during these days.
After reading your post I got tears in my eyes and heart. God bless the soul.
So sorry for your loss. May your daughter rest in peace.
Oh Rosetta. I have been waiting for you to write about your lovely daughter and make a start in getting it all out. It’s never the right thing to do to keep it in and I was starting to worry that you were going to leave it all bottled up.
This, Rosetta, is a gorgeous tribute to Wendy. I’m so glad she got the funeral that she’d talked about and so deserved. Pink flowers are the best. I love the song that was chosen. Dirty Dancing is one of my favourite ever movies too.
I hope Wendy’s little dog is on the mend. It’s awful when an animal is left behind, not understanding what has happened. And more important, how are you coping?
I wish you all the very best, my lovely friend. This is the hardest thing you will ever do I’m sure. But I know you’re strong enough to take a few baby steps forward.
RIP Wendy – I wish I’d known you.
Oh Rosetta. I have been waiting for you to write about your lovely daughter and make a start in getting it all out. It’s never the right thing to do to keep it in and I was starting to worry that you were going to leave it all bottled up.
This, Rosetta, is a gorgeous tribute to Wendy. I\’m so glad she got the funeral that she’d talked about and so deserved. Pink flowers are the best. I love the song that was chosen. Dirty Dancing is one of my favourite ever movies too.
I hope Wendy\’s little dog is on the mend. It’s awful when an animal is left behind, not understanding what has happened. And more important, how are you coping?
I wish you all the very best, my lovely friend. This is the hardest thing you will ever do I’m sure. But I know you’re strong enough to take a few baby steps forward.
RIP Wendy – I wish I’d known you.
Rosetta,
Hope you come back soon…..Life has to go on…we are all there with you,come back.I just came to say you this…May god bless you and your family with Strength and Wisdom to deal with this Loss.
God bless!
Hi Rosetta I joined this site last year but I was a bit all over the place as I hadn’t long lost my beautiful daughter Erin who was only 17 years old.
I was on another writing site then and I have writen and written and written!
I wanted to share my story in the hope that it will help others.Therefore I can relate to so much of what you say.
A tender ,beautiful and heartfelt article. Here’s lots of hugs from Wales to you.
Eddy.
